One of the surprising things about separation or divorce is how it can render a person almost unable to function, especially the person who wants to save the marriage.

I often got into funks where I could hardly function. We happen to farm and I could usually get the essentials done, like feeding the cattle, but had little energy for anything else.

I still remember working on the taxes and accounting near the end of the year (a job I have done for 25 years or more) and looking at a check signed by my wife and starting to cry. I was just a mess.

It wasn’t too long after that I checked myself into an intensive out-patient treatment center www.meierclinics.com and was eventually diagnosed with long-term depression.

In the Divorce Care videos that I watched there was a testimony by a lady who said she got up in the morning and had to look in the mirror and tell herself to put toothpaste on the toothbrush and then to put the toothbrush in her mouth.

Separation and divorce doesn’t always impact everyone quite so dramatically, but if it does you, don’t be afraid to get help whether through counseling, seeing a pastor, joining a Divorce Care support group or something else that helps you.