My wife and I just finished our Life Forming coach training last week. As part of our final program we were asked to share how we hoped to use our coach training. I said that I wanted to help marriages from pre-marrieds through long-term marriages, including struggling marriages.
At the end I added something about helping marriages from cradle-to-grave. For some reason, I felt like I wanted to mention the whole cradle-to-grave concept but in the short time we had I couldn’t quite get all my thoughts gathered, especially how to help marriages from the cradle on.
But, I realized that when I can help a couple to be on good footing in their marriage when their child is born, I am really helping that child to have better prospects for a good marriage. The more I read about the effects of divorce, and the more I listen to people whose parents divorced, the more I realize that the divorce of parents is so devastating to a child’s sense of worth, no matter what the age of the child.
I have known children whose parents divorced when they were infants, who still have questions about their worth when they are adults. I have known successful professionals in their 20’s and 30’s when their parents got divorced, struggle in their own lives with the aftermath.
Most couples who have been married 50 years or more admit that they don’t have it all together; many of them may even be interested in some new couple skills. More importantly, I would love to inspire those couples to share what they have learned in the ups and downs of marriage with the younger generation. Those long-term couples have a wealth of trial-by-fire knowledge and also know from personal experience what commitment really means.