I so often hear from men who are separated, “I’ll do anything to save my marriage!” Now, I assume that means anything that is not illegal, immoral, or against Scripture.
I am becoming more and more skeptical when I hear someone say this because so often I will then give some suggestions based on my experience, and what they have told me about their situation, but I will only hear from them a couple of more times. Sometimes I will stay engaged with them over time, but very few suggestions that I make, or others with experience in distressed marriages will make, will ever be tried or followed. I usually hear that they settled for a dissolution and are already dating again.
I wish people would just be more honest with themselves and others and say something like: “I really don’t want to lose my marriage, but I am not ready to go all out for it. I will try a few things, but if they don’t work quickly, I am just going to go along with a dissolution and look for someone else.”
Many marriages in dire straits are healed from some awful stuff, but so few couples will latch on to saving theirs with everything they have within them.
Not sure how to inspire people to never, never, never give up.