Sometimes a spouse who does not want a marriage to end is willing to make some last ditch efforts for their marriage. One thing is to pray and fast for wisdom as to what to suggest to your spouse and that their heart would be open and willing.
Here are some things to consider:
Some state laws have a clause where a party can request the court to order counseling. I believe Ohio is one of those states. Sometimes the judge will, sometimes he won’t, but it might be worth a try.
I have heard of instances of a court in California ordering a couple to go to Retrovaille – a weekend intensive.
My suggestion would be to research things on your own, sort them out, present them to your spouse, and if they are willing to do any of them, participate wholeheartedly.
Look at our Resources page for Intensives suggestions.
Retrouvaille is probably one of the oldest, most established and successful intensive weekends. Retrouvaille is held in retreat centers, hotels, and other venues across the country and is led by people who have participated in the past. The material is the same regardless of where you participate. They also have followups. The last I knew they just asked for donations. They had a suggested amount depending on the hotel costs. You do not have to share your struggles with others.
National Institute of Marriage and Sharon Hart Morris do two- to four-day intensives that include professional counseling.
If you search the web, there are many more alternatives.