Over time I have talked to various people about their adventures in the courtroom regarding divorce, dissolution, and child support. Today I happen to be pondering someone’s situation so I just started reading the sections in the Ohio Revised Code relating to those issues. Some of it is pretty clear, some of it gives me a headache.
Years ago when I was in an estate planning class the professor mentioned that if you died without a will, the state had one for you, so if you didn’t like the state’s plan, you better write your own. I also have heard the saying in regard to government programs, “When you get in bed with the government, you get more than a good night’s sleep.”
It sure appears that if at all possible your life will be less complicated if you can come together with your spouse and work out your problems. Once you get in the court system you lose some measure of control of your life. There appears to be some situations when even you and your spouse might agree, but the court has authority to override your agreement and enforce its own agreement on you both.
Please, make every effort possible to work out things with your spouse and to remain in your marriage. There are so many resources and people to help you and so many unexpected consequences if you head down the divorce path.