I found this to be a great post from Sheila Gregoire to help people understand that if they are in a tough marriage situation they made bad choices that got them there, but they also can make good choices to make their marriage and life different and better.

One thing I often tell people is that even if they are only 1% responsible for the state of their marriage, then they need to take responsibility for that 1%. When they do, it’s amazing how God can work in their partner and in them to turn their marriage around.

Here’s Sheila’s blog post.