Last weekend I attended the wedding of some people I know pretty well who are not Christians. They are pretty respectful of my wife’s and my faith, but they really don’t like us to go too deep about it.
The father of the bride had an affair, divorced his first wife (the bride’s mother), and then married the other woman. The bride and her husband have a two-year-old girl and have been living together for quite a while. The father’s second wife was the primary wedding “go-to” person that day. The marriage ceremony was performed by someone who gave a nice talk, but from a secular perspective.
I just get puzzled sometimes why people who really don’t want much to do with Christian values – the values of no adultery in marriage, no sex outside of marriage, and no babies out of wedlock – get so excited about weddings and getting married.
It was interesting, though, how many Christian values were upheld in the talk and the vows. Things like love, patience, kindness, endurance, working out problems, helping each other, and being for life.
I was reminded of what Pastor John Piper teaches. Even a non-Christian marriage reflects some of the glory of God and of the love that Christ has for His Bride, the Church.
It just seems to me that if people are living by primarily non-Christian, non-religious, secular values, they wouldn’t be that interested in going through all of the legal hoops of getting married, and then divorced, if it doesn’t work.
The really sad part is that I have been involved in trying to convince Christian couples who profess to live by Christian values, who were probably married in the church and are still in the church, to keep their vows and stay together. Then I watch secular people really desiring to get married and stay married.