Steve Arterburn authored “Healing from Your Past”. One of the chapters is about forgiveness. Steve’s story is that he was divorced against his will. He does a good job discussing the practical aspects of forgiveness. One of his key points is how much forgiveness frees us from the past so that we can move on in life. One comforting thing that Steve mentions is that healing is a process. It may take a day, a week, a year or several years, depending on the depth of the hurt, but we can all chose to start on that road today.
A comment that I read somewhere else about unforgiveness is that it is like you drinking poison and hoping the other guy dies.