I encounter various people along the way in distressed marriages desperately looking for answers. Often they wonder what I think about this or that situation. I am also involved in various message boards in conversations about marriage, I listen to people ask questions about marriage and divorce and I get to thinking about what my response might be.

Sometimes I have what I think is a well reasoned response and other times I don’t. I spend a lot of time reading books, magazines, and sites on the internet dealing with marriage, divorce, and reconciliation. I’ve learned that just a simple question such as “What reasons does Jesus allow divorce?” can generate much debate even amongst Bible believing, Bible quoting Christians. Sometimes I can see both views and am not sure which to pick myself, much less recommend as a solution to someone else.

What I have come to conclude is that each of us needs to do what Paul commended the Bereans for – that they search the Scriptures to see if what he was saying was true. Jesus said “I am the way, the truth, and the life.” Each of us needs to seek Him through His word, worship, and prayer because He is our only hope.