If you have been served with an unwanted divorce petition it is critical to do some serious checking about your state law. Most states in this country have no-fault divorce laws which eventually allow either spouse to get a divorce regardless of whether the other spouse wants one. However, some states have mechanisms in place that can at least slow the process so people have time to think about the ramifications and possibly even reconcile.
I just found out that in Maryland, for example, in a contested divorce both parties have to attend a parenting type class and some of the topics include the effects of divorce on children and communication. Also both parties must appear before a judge. Maryland also has a two-year waiting period from the time you are legally separated. In Ohio you may ask the judge to order counseling for the parties. It doesn’t mean he will grant it, but you can ask. In no-fault states you can’t prevent a divorce but you can be judicious in how the law is used to give the best chance for reconciliation.
My caution is if you truly don’t want a divorce be extremely slow and cautious about signing a dissolution and give serious consideration to just allowing your spouse to file for divorce and then contesting it.
The Apostle Paul did not try to change the Roman empire by filing lawsuits, but he did strategically assert his rights as a Roman citizen to advance the gospel.