Last week we watched the inspirational movie, Secretariat, about the horse that won the Triple Crown back in the early 1970’s. The horse’s owner was Penny Chenery who inherited him when her father died. In spite of no Triple Crown winners for the 25 years prior, and in spite of substantial offers for her to sell Secretariat, Penny held on to see her improbable dream of him winning the Triple Crown and saw it come true.
During a separation it is so easy to hear from your spouse, friends, pastors, and lawyers that your marriage is hopeless. Sometimes it is helpful just to watch a movie that tells of great battles won against the odds. It doesn’t have to be a movie about marriage either. Any great story that inspires you to keep trying will do. Some possible movies are Fireproof, Facing the Giants, Secretariat, Rocky, Braveheart, or Chariots of Fire. The key is to find inspiration to pull through when it seems like all hope should be lost.
It is not uncommon for me to meet a divorced person who tells me that they really wished they had fought harder for their marriage. I have also had divorced people indicate to me that if they had put as much energy into their first marriage as they have into their second marriage in an effort not to fail again, that they would still be married to their first spouse.