John and Stasi Eldredge have a great book and DVD series out called “Love and War: Finding the Marriage You’ve Dreamed Of”. I read the book a while back but Sharon and I are now going through the video series.
The other night they mentioned how both marriage partners are like cracked cups in our humanity. What so often happens is that we look to our partner to fill our leaky cup with the contents of their leaky cup. It usually doesn’t work too well and we often got frustrated at our partner for not fulfilling our needs – some of which can only be filled by God. What does help is when each partner goes to God, gets refreshed in their own way, and then with His Spirit overflowing through them, each has something to give their partner.