Below you will find the Love Dare titles, scriptures and summaries listed for all 40 days. JohnK at http://www.40daylovedare.com/mb/default.asp had listed the scriptures and the summaries on their discussion board. I got it all in one document because I want to be able to post it somewhere at home where I see it as a reminder how to practically love my wife.
What I like about this is that the concepts are emphasized three times. One is the short titles that are easy to remember, second are the short Scriptures – we know that God’s Word does not return void, and that it is sharper than a two-edge sword – and third is the action of love – which are pretty simple, but sometimes hard to do.
I hope to make these Dares a lifestyle. I am sure it will take a lifetime to truly master loving my wife as Christ loves the church.
Day 1: Love is patient
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. ~ Ephesians 4:2 NIV
Dare: Demonstrate patience and say nothing negative to your spouse.
Day 2: Love is kind
Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. ~ Ephesians 4:32
Dare: Do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.
Day 3: Love is not selfish
Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor. ~ Romans 12:10
Dare: Buy your spouse something that says, “I was thinking of you today.”
Day 4: Love is thoughtful
How precious also are Your thoughts to me…. How vast is the sum of them! If I should count them, they would outnumber the sand. ~ Psalm 139:17-18
Dare: Contact your spouse with no agenda other than asking how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them.
Day 5: Love is not rude
He who blesses his friend with a loud voice early in the morning, it will be reckoned a curse to him. ~ Proverbs 27:14
Dare: Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated simply to gain their perspective.
Day 6: Love is not irritable
He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit, than he who captures a city. ~ Proverbs 16:32
Dare: Make a list of areas where you need to add margin to your schedule. Then list any wrong motivations that you need to release from your life.
Day 7: Love believes the best
[Love] believe all things, hopes all things. ~ 1 Corinthians 13:7
Dare: Get two sheets of paper. On the first, write out positive things about your spouse. Then do the same with negative things on the second. Place both sheets in a secret place. At some point during the remainder of the day, pick a positive attribute from the first list and thank your spouse for having this characteristic.
Day 8: Love is not jealous
Love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire. ~ Song of Solomon 8:6 NIV
Dare: Take yesterday’s list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it. Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed.
Day 9: Love makes good impressions
Greet one another with a kiss of love. ~ 1 Peter 5:14
Dare: Think of a specific way to greet your spouse that reflects your love for them.
Day 10: Love is Unconditional
God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. ~ Romans 5:8
Dare: Do something out of the ordinary today for your spouse.
Day 11: Love Cherishes
Husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. ~ Ephesians 5:28
Dare: Choose a gesture that says, “I cherish you” and do it with a smile.
Day 12: Love lets others win
Do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interest of others. ~ Philippians 2:4
Dare: Willingly choose to give in to an area of disagreement between you and your spouse and tell them you are putting their preference first.
Day 13: Love fights fair
If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. ~ Mark 3:25
Dare: Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement and resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.
Day 14: Love takes delight
Enjoy life with the wife you love all the days of your fleeting life. ~ Ecclesiastes 9:9 HCSB
Dare: Purposefully neglect an activity you would normally do so you can spend quality time with your spouse.
Day 15: Love is honorable
Live with your wives in an understanding way… and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life. ~1 Peter 3:7
Dare: Choose a way to show honor and respect to your spouse that is above your normal routine.
Day 16: Love intercedes
Beloved, I pray that in all respects you may prosper and be in good health, just as your soul prospers. ~ 3 John 2
Dare: Pray for three specific areas where you desire for God to work in your spouse’s life and in your marriage.
Day 17: Love promotes intimacy
He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends. ~ Proverbs 17:9 NIV
Dare: Determine to guard your mate’s secrets and to pray for them.
Day 18: Love seeks to understand
How blessed is the man who finds wisdom, and the man who gains understanding. ~ Proverbs 3:13
Dare: Prepare a special dinner at home, just for the two of you and focus this time on getting to know your spouse better in areas you’ve rarely talked about.
Day 19: Love is impossible
Let us love one another, for love is from God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. ~ 1 John 4
Dare: Look back over the dares from previous days and assess your need for God to change your heart to love. Ask Him to show you where you stand with Him, and ask for the strength and grace to settle your eternal destination.
Day 20: Love is Jesus Christ
While we were still helpless, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. ~ Romans 5:6
Dare: Dare to take God at His Word. Dare to trust Jesus Christ for salvation. Dare to pray, “Lord Jesus, I’m a sinner. But you have shown Your love for me by dying to forgive my sins, and You have proven Your power to save me from death by Your resurrection. Lord, change my heart, and save me by Your grace.”
Day 21: Love is satisfied in God
The Lord will continually guide you, and satisfy your desire. ~ Isaiah 58:11
Dare: Be intentional about making a time to pray and read your Bible.
Day 22: Love is faithful
I will betroth you to Me in faithfulness. Then you will know the Lord. ~ Hosea 2:20
Dare: Say to your spouse in words similar to these, “I love you. Period. I choose to love you even if you don’t love me in return.”
Day 23: Love always protects
[Love] always protects. ~ 1 Corinthians 13:7 NIV
Dare: Remove any addiction or influence that’s stealing your affections and turning your heart away from your spouse.
Day 24: Love vs Lust
The world is passing away, and also its lusts; but the one who does the will of God lives forever. ~ 1 John 2:17
Dare: Identify every object of lust in your life and remove it. Replace it with the sure promises of God and a heart filled with His perfect love.
Day 25: Love forgives
What I have forgiven, if I have forgiven anything, I did it for your sakes in the presence of Christ. ~ 2 Corinthians 2:10
Dare: Whatever you haven’t forgiven in your mate, forgive it today. Say from your heart, “I choose to forgive.”
Day 26: Love is responsible
When you judge another, you condemn yourself, since you, the judge, do the same things. ~ Romans 2:1 HCSB
Dare: Take time to pray through your areas of wrongdoing.
Day 27: Love encourages
Guard my soul and deliver me; do not let me be ashamed, for I take refuge in You. ~ Psalm 25:20
Dare: Think of one area where your spouse has told you you’re expecting too much, and tell them you’re sorry for being so hard on them about it.
Day 28: Love makes sacrifices
He laid down His life for us. We should also lay down our lives for our brothers. ~ 1 John 3:16 HCSB
Dare: Recognize one of the greatest needs in your spouse’s life. Whether the need is big or small, purpose to do what you can to meet the need.
Day 29: Love’s motivation
Render service with a good attitude, as to the Lord and not to men. ~ Ephesians 6:7 HCSB
Dare: Pray for your spouse by name and for their needs. When you see them, say “I love you,” then express love to them in some tangible way. Go to God in prayer again, thanking Him for giving you the privilege of loving this one special person.
Day 30: Love brings unity
Father, keep them in Your name, the name which You have given Me, that they may be one even as We are. ~ John 17:11
Dare: Isolate one area of division in your marriage, and pray about it.
Day 31: Love and Marriage
A man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and the shall become one flesh. ~ Genesis 2:24
Dare: Confess a “leaving” issue to your spouse, and resolve to make it right.
Day 32: Love meets sexual needs
The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. ~ 1 Corinthians 7:3
Dare: Try to initiate sex with your husband or wife in a way that honors what they have told you (or implied to you) about what they need from you sexually.
Day 33: Love completes each other
If two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone? ~ Ecclesiastes 4:11
Dare: Let your spouse know you desire to include them in your upcoming decisions, and that you need their perspective and counsel.
Day 34: Love celebrates Godliness
[Love] does not rejoice in unrighteousness, bur rejoices with the truth. ~ 1 Corinthians 13:6
Dare: Find a specific, recent example when your spouse demonstrated Christian character and commend them for this.
Day 35: Love is accountable
Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed. ~ Proverbs 15:22 NIV
Dare: Find a marriage mentor.
Day 36: Love is God’s Word
Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. ~ Psalm 119:105
Dare: Commit to reading the Bible every day.
Day 37: Love agrees in prayer
If two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father. ~ Matthew 18:19
Dare: Ask your spouse if you can begin praying together.
Day 38: Love fulfills dreams
Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart. ~ Psalm 37:4
Dare: Ask yourself what your mate would want if it was obtainable and commit it to prayer.
Day 39: Love endures
Love never fails. ~ 1 Corinthians 13:8
Dare: Spend time in personal prayer, then write a letter of commitment and resolve to your spouse.
Day 40: Love is a covenant
Where you go, I will go, and where you lodge, I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God, my God. ~ Ruth 1:16
Dare: Write out a renewal of your vows and place them in your home.
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