Sharon and I were separated 16 months and have been back together just over five years.
While our initial reconciliation came relatively fast (we were barely speaking the 1st of October 2004, went to a PAIRS training October 9 which got us unstuck and talking again, started living together again in early December and had a recommittment ceremony January 1, 2005) we are even now in the process of reconciliation.
What I have noticed is that just living life brings up issues from our separation that are still painful – issues that maybe we never really talked about. Thankfully now with the tools we have, with the help of Jesus, and having goodwill for one another, we can discuss and make progress on some of those issues.
I am not sure we will ever be done with this reconciliation process but I am thankful that we have the tools to do so much better with issues than we used to in the past.