As I was very busy planting corn last week, which is unusually early, I got to thinking about the fact that in a struggling marriage a person needs to be ready to seize the moment for reconciliation – which is in God’s timing, not ours.
Over the years, I have noticed that the last week of April and the first week of May typically is the best time to plant corn. However, some years, like this year, the weather has been perfect earlier than normal. Other years, it hasn’t been fit to plant until late May or even once in a great while, June.
It is easy in a marriage separation to get our hopes up for a reconciliation around a time that is special to us – our anniversary, a birthday, or a holiday – then that time comes and goes and maybe we find that our spouse is even more cold and distant. After such a time it is easy to give up.
Then someday out of the blue, our spouse maybe more civilized in their actions towards us, they may start talking from the heart, they may agree to go to counseling or a seminar. It is easy to be mad that they didn’t come around when we hoped they would, but it is important to quickly get over those feelings and be thrilled with what they are doing, and to seize the moment.