Category Archives: Separation
It Was Worth It
If you have read this blog much, you know that our marriage was very shaky at one time. We had a lot of pain, many struggles, and much work that had to be done to reconcile before we ended up … Continue reading
Life Hack: Sharing a Calendar
We teach quite a few tools about how to resolve conflict, but most of the time it is easier to just minimize conflict. Having a shared calendar is one way to minimize conflict over schedules. We’ve learned over the years … Continue reading
The Work of Reconciliation Was Worth It
I am so thankful that with Jesus’s help my wife and I persevered through our separation of sixteen months until we reconciled our marriage. I have shared some of our journey in previous posts. I want to testify that the … Continue reading
My Separation Thoughts
During our 16-month separation I had many opportunities to think about and make decisions for myself about separation, dissolution, or divorce from a theological aspect, a personal aspect and a legal aspect. For those of you who are facing similar decisions I … Continue reading
Rekindling An Almost Dead Marriage
One Friday morning I started a fire in a brush pile. Just like the start of many marriages it was roaring pretty good. Then on Monday, after two or three inches of rain and cold weather, the fire looked pretty dead. … Continue reading
Jay and Laura Laffoon
Jay and Laura Laffoon are marriage and relationship edu-tainers. They teach about those topics by using humor. We first saw them at an AMFM Conference years ago. If you ever get to see them in person with their Ultimate Date Night you … Continue reading
New from Choosing Wisely Before You Divorce
I found great encouragement, hope and inspiration to fight for our marriage when I watched the video series “Choosing Wisely Before You Divorce”. The video series is now on the web. About halfway down the page under “View and Download the … Continue reading
Thankfulness
I thought that Ann Voskamp had a great reminder in this post on how foundational thankfulness is to our lives. I know that during the worst days of our separation it was such a struggle to be thankful about anything. But, I … Continue reading
I Could Not Say “Yes”
In Ohio Revised Code 3105.64 in regards to a petition for marriage dissolution it says, “A) Except as provided in division (B) or (C) of this section, not less than thirty nor more than ninety days after the filing of … Continue reading
The Intimacy Merry-Go-Round
In their book, “Stripped Down“, Tony and Alisa Dilorenzo mention six types of intimacy: emotional, intellectual, spiritual, recreational, financial, and physical intimacies. In their book, “Red Hot Monogamy“, Bill and Pam Farrel discuss eight types of intimacy: social, financial, recreational, vocational, parental, … Continue reading
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