Category Archives: Separation

My Separation Thoughts

During our 16-month separation I had many opportunities to think about and make decisions for myself about separation, dissolution, or divorce from a theological aspect, a personal aspect and a legal aspect. For those of you who are facing similar decisions I … Continue reading

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Rekindling An Almost Dead Marriage

One Friday morning I started a fire in a brush pile. Just like the start of many marriages it was roaring pretty good. Then on Monday, after two or three inches of rain and cold weather, the fire looked pretty dead. … Continue reading

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Jay and Laura Laffoon

Jay and Laura Laffoon are marriage and relationship edu-tainers. They teach about those topics by using humor. We first saw them at an AMFM Conference years ago. If you ever get to see them in person with their Ultimate Date Night you … Continue reading

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New from Choosing Wisely Before You Divorce

I found great encouragement, hope and inspiration to fight for our marriage when I watched the video series “Choosing Wisely Before You Divorce”. The video series is now on the web. About halfway down the page under “View and Download the … Continue reading

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Thankfulness

I thought that Ann Voskamp had a great reminder in this post on how foundational thankfulness is to our lives. I know that during the worst days of our separation it was such a struggle to be thankful about anything. But, I … Continue reading

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I Could Not Say “Yes”

In Ohio Revised Code 3105.64 in regards to a petition for marriage dissolution it says, “A) Except as provided in division (B) or (C) of this section, not less than thirty nor more than ninety days after the filing of … Continue reading

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The Intimacy Merry-Go-Round

In their book, “Stripped Down“, Tony and Alisa Dilorenzo mention six types of intimacy: emotional, intellectual, spiritual, recreational, financial, and physical intimacies. In their book, “Red Hot Monogamy“, Bill and Pam Farrel discuss eight types of intimacy: social, financial, recreational, vocational, parental, … Continue reading

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Marriage Promises Compared to Loan Promises

Traditional marriage vows, which are used or slightly modified by a high percentage of couples getting married, go something like this, “I, (name), take you (name), to be my (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for … Continue reading

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Divorce Law in Ohio: An Overview

I am not a lawyer, and during our 16-month marital separation I never hired a family law attorney. We did hire a professional divorce mediator and I had extensive talks with her and I did some reading. Each state is different … Continue reading

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A Good Day Not In Front of a Divorce Judge

During some of the bleakest times of our separation I finally came to a peace that every day not standing in front of a divorce judge was a good day. I learned that sometimes when a person gets way down emotionally … Continue reading

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