Early in our separation I learned some facts that were tough to accept, but once I started trusting God more, they became less of an impediment to my emotional and mental health.
A. Across most of the United States no-fault divorce is the law, which means that if a partner wants out of a marriage – sooner or later they can get out. Depending on the state there are things that can be done to slow the process, and at times you can even request or require counseling or mediation.
B. The general assumption in the culture is that divorce is no big deal and the culture and legal system is not marriage friendly.
C. Often in the church, even though there is a pro-marriage attitude from the pulpit, the general consensus is that there is not much that can be done to save a marriage when only one partner wants to save it, and that even though divorce is not the ideal, the best thing is to “move on with your life.”
The antidote to all of this is that “With God all things are possible”, remembering that God said “I hate divorce”, and Jesus said “Let no man put asunder what God has joined together.”
It can be a tough road to hold onto your marriage when circumstances and people around you seem hopeless, but God is the God of all hope, and my desire for this website is that people can be pointed to God and to latch onto practical resources that will bring hope as they wait for a reconciled marriage.