So often in a distressed marriage or a marital separation it is so easy to let our emotions rise and fall on our spouse’s reaction or non reaction to everything we do, including things that we truly believe are loving actions.

What I came to realize was that I had to learn to follow the leading of the Holy Spirit in both my actions and attitudes. I needed to do those things that I felt He was leading me to do and refrain from those actions that He was leading me not to take. My goal had to become pleasing Him, not allowing myself to be whipsawed by negative reactions or no reactions from my wife, and when I got the smallest positive reaction from her, to be thankful for it.