This is an excellent clip about how to improve couple communication by using what is called the speaker/listener technique. Meredith Viera points out that it is does not feel natural to do this with your partner, which is true! “Natural” is beating one another up verbally like we usually do, but if we want a better relationship we are going to have to concentrate on what our partner is saying, have a good attitude towards them, and do some things differently.
There is enough of the technique shown in this video that if you use it each day or even several times per week, you may have a better marriage very quickly. We all long to be listened to and this tool helps each partner do that.