Shelley Lopez, MS, LPC, IMFT of CitiLookout shared with our mentoring group her thoughts on rebuilding trust after an affair.

The Process for the Violator

a. Radical Honesty

b. Accept Responsibility

c. Openness

d. Make Amends

e. Accountability

f. Daily assurance, especially for pornography addiction

The Process For the Betrayed Spouse

a. Radical Honesty

b. Accept Responsibility

c. Openness

d. Accept Amends

e. Accountability

f. Forgiveness minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day.

This looks to me like a good overall road map to recovery based on everything I have read and heard in the past about adultery recovery.