Author Archives: sewildman

I went to see Fireproof The Movie last night on it’s opening night. It touched me as deeply as it did the first time I saw it in pre-screening. I highly encourage people to see this movie. It is so … Continue reading →

This coming weekend Fireproof The Movie starts showing at theaters. Check out http://www.fireproofthemovie.com. I saw this in an early screening and thought it was excellent. My wife and I were separated for 16 months before reconciling and I thought this … Continue reading →

One reason I haven’t posted much lately is that I have been on vacation with my wife. We reconnected with some old friends, Clint and Penny Bragg of Inverse Ministries. They have a miraculous reconciliation story. They were actually divorced … Continue reading →

During our separation I wrote a lot; some to myself and some to counselors, as I was trying to sort out my feelings. I wish that blogging had been around then or maybe it was and I didn’t know it. … Continue reading →

A marriage researcher, John Gottman, has named four attitudes – called The Four Horsemen – that are deadly to a marriage and often lead to divorce if not addressed. They are criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling. To read more go … Continue reading →

Many marriages in crisis have just one spouse who really wants to save the marriage. So often I hear comments like, “It takes two to save a marriage”, which usually means, “My spouse doesn’t want to work at our marriage, … Continue reading →

As I work with couples I ponder what the tipping point is for people to click off and be done with their marriage. Usually, it’s one person to just give up and quit working on the marriage. Then the second … Continue reading →

I wrote earlier about my experiences watching the trailer for Fireproof The Movie. Well, my wife and I got to see a pre-screening. The movie was awesome. I thought it did a great job capturing the emotions and struggles of … Continue reading →

Just found this on the Smart Marriages website. I thought it was a good article about the broad ranging effects of divorce. I am inspired to keep trying to help marriages, but puzzled how to convince people that divorce is … Continue reading →

My wife and I just finished our Life Forming coach training last week. As part of our final program we were asked to share how we hoped to use our coach training. I said that I wanted to help marriages … Continue reading →