In our ministry I get to interact with people in various stages of separation, divorce, or reconciliation. Some of them I have just one or two contacts with, some I interact with both spouses, and some I interact mostly with one spouse and sometimes for a long time.
It just amazes me how over the course of time a person can go from “My spouse is the love of my life” and “I’ll do anything to save my marriage” to ” I am done with them!”, “I am ready for them to be out of my life.”
And yes, I am not naive, there has been some not so pretty stuff behind the scenes that has happened, but it is sad that two who at one time were so intimate are now so estranged. It is also discouraging as a people helper to wonder what else you might have said or done to help them have a better outcome.
If you are in a struggling relationship I encourage you to do everything possible in your power not to get to such a place emotionally. Thankfully, “love covers over a multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8).