Author Archives: RichWildman

I thought this was an excellent article in Redbook magazine about surviving an affair. http://www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/advice/surviving-an-affair I appreciated how the article shared how much rage and anger the betrayed spouse can feel, but also the determination of both parties to hang … Continue reading →

I am thankful that Sharon and I reconciled in December of 2004. I am thankful for the many great resources available to help couples who struggle. I am thankful that Jesus loves us through all the ups and downs of  … Continue reading →

Here are two great videos about how to make positive changes in your marriage by yourself and to get positive changes from your spouse. Michelle explains it so well – we know exactly what to say to make an evening … Continue reading →

I am always discouraged when I notice people take off their wedding rings during a separation, especially if they say they want the marriage to be reconciled. Many of the ring ceremonies I have heard at weddings have talked about … Continue reading →

Jeff Williams e-interviewed me about coaching separated men at this link. http://www.christiancoachingcenter.org/index.php/2009/11/coaching-separated-men-part-i-an-interview-with-a-coach-whos-been-there-by-jeff-williams While you are at the Christian Coaching Center you might want to browse around for other articles about coaching as it relates to life, family, and marriage.

One thing that I have noticed after five years of being reconciled with Sharon is that circumstances in life seem to occur that are very similar to circumstances that really stressed our relationship years ago. The encouraging thing to me … Continue reading →

I was just listening to Beth Moore and she mentioned that in Jewish culture it was only the man who signed the marriage covenant. The burden was on him to keep the covenant and to protect the marriage. That raises … Continue reading →

One of the surprising things about separation or divorce is how it can render a person almost unable to function, especially the person who wants to save the marriage. I often got into funks where I could hardly function. We … Continue reading →

During our separation one of the lessons I learned from the Marriage 911 study was that I needed to do good self care. They suggested that we find activities that we used to enjoy before marriage that were not illegal, … Continue reading →

One thing I came to realize during our separation was that even though over the years I had not been primarily an exploder when it came to anger I still had a lot of buried anger and it came out … Continue reading →