Author Archives: RichWildman

From day one when Sharon told me that she wanted a separation I was adamant about wanting to reconcile. Even when she announced that she was getting a divorce no matter what, I still was single-minded about wanting to reconcile. Over … Continue reading →

Most of the time we are working with struggling marriages and I often blog about struggling marriages. It’s a welcome relief to do some premarital mentoring sometimes. One of our fellow mentors once said, “It’s nice to be able to … Continue reading →

Jesus said in Matthew 19:4-6, “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two … Continue reading →

One of my goals for having this website and blog was that when people call me in a marital crisis, or when people are searching the web for resources for their own or a friend’s marital crisis, they can get a lot … Continue reading →

Sometimes when I am talking to a person who is separated from their spouse, especially if things are not going well, they will ask something like, “Why should I even fight for my marriage? My spouse doesn’t seem to care.”. … Continue reading →

At the end of the wedding ceremony often the pastor will say something like, “By God’s authority and the authority invested in me by the State of            , I pronounce you man and wife.” In … Continue reading →

I was just at a wedding this past weekend. In his sermon the pastor mentioned that marriage is a covenant not a contract. He mentioned that contracts are based on distrust and covenants are based on trust. I think he … Continue reading →

I had several major types of hopelessness to overcome during our separation. The first level of hopelessness was “What is the point of living if I am not with my wife and children?”. I never attempted suicide, but there were … Continue reading →

The Christian Marriage Bloggers Association  has challenged those who blog about marriage to post for 13 straight days. I thought that was good inspiration to get back to blogging. Since I may have some new readers the next few days … Continue reading →