Tag Archives: Struggling
Zig Ziglar Story of Loving Actions
I found the Zig Ziglar story quoted in the blog below to be quite helpful in showing how if you take the Bible seriously it doesn’t give you any outs for not loving your spouse Love Through Actions
Long Shots
As I watch politics, sports, and business stories it is always amazing how some people come out of nowhere when no one thought they had a chance. I recently watched an Ohio State/Nebraska football came where Nebraska was down by … Continue reading
Is Your God Too Small?
I was praying one day about several things that were bothering me. They seemed too big, too complicated, too messy to even figure out. Then I got hit between the eyes (again) with this verse from Luke 1:37 (NIV), “For … Continue reading
Testimony / Intense Emotions
During our separation sometimes I would go from crying to being in a rage within just a few minutes, and sometimes it was from raging to crying. Over time I learned to process these intense emotions with God through worship … Continue reading
Testimony / Encouragement Just When Needed
During our separation there were times when God brought some amazing encouragement to me just when I needed it. Once I was at a church in Michigan that was pastored by a friend. At the end of the service they … Continue reading
Separation and Reconciliation are Just Hard
I had an opportunity the other day to review many of the emails, letters, and psychological tests from the time of our separation. I could see where both of us in our own time and way honestly and intensely sought … Continue reading
Another perspective on “If your wife wants out”
In various places on this blog I share some of the things I did when Sharon wanted out of our marriage and I have suggested some ideas I have thought of since. Below is another man’s perspective on what to … Continue reading
A Little Frustration with Men . . .
I often have men call me saying how much pain they are in because their wife wants out of the marriage, and how they will do anything to save their marriage. Typically I make several suggestions for them to try … Continue reading
Overcoming the “She’s Done” Crowd
One of my struggles during our separation were the well meaning people around me who were trying to convince me that “Sharon’s done” or “It’s over” and encouraging me in subtle ways to quietly accept that, give her a dissolution, … Continue reading
Playing to Win or Playing to Lose
During our separation as I struggling with what to do to save my marriage, and contemplating what would happen if everything I tried failed and we got divorced, my counselor challenged me to play to win instead of playing to … Continue reading

